Thursday, January 31, 2013

Greet Them With a Smile



Let me tell you about this dude I met over the weekend.  For now, we'll call him Ted the $20 Dude.  This guy taught me another valuable lesson (or more like reminded me of a lesson), and I'm going to share that lesson with you.

Ted the $20 Dude was visiting where I work with his wife and daughter.  There was nothing that really stood out about Ted.  He was probably in his late 40s, had the typical "dad belly," and wanted a drink to calm his nerves after a long day.  So he came up to the bar and started talking to me.  I, being my normal self, listened and responded when appropriate.

Then Ted, after talking to me for a bit, told me about how his vacation wasn't going the greatest and that he always seemed to have "bad luck."  He thanked me for being nice to him.  And he told me multiple times that he'd bring me a cash tip the next day.  I didn't really expect him to, but I said "Okay, no problem" and continued to talk to him until he left the bar.

The next day Ted came back to the bar again.  I said hi, smiled and asked if his day was getting any better.  He told me a few things and then said "I told you I'd be back with this," and tossed a $20 bill on the counter.  He said thanks again.  He told me how much it meant to him that I was nice, and that he could tell it was a genuine part of my personality.  I thanked him again, and then went about my day.

So here's the lesson of this story: you never know who you'll meet and how your actions will affect them.  You may meet someone like Ted the $20 Dude who is having a rough day and simply needs someone to be kind to him.  It's like the Golden Rule says, "Treat others how you want to be treated."  Not only is it rewarding for the person, but it can be rewarding for you, too.  It is a great feeling to know that you helped someone to have a better day. 

So, I hope you take this to heart.  It may be cheesy but it's the truth.  Treat others with kindness and respect, and try to greet them with a smile.  You never know who you'll meet :)

Keep your head up girly!



Tuesday, January 22, 2013

You've Got a Friend in Me



As I lay here with my laptop in my lap, my new earbuds in my ears, and Jimmy Eat World's "23" playing on my computer, I find myself thinking of yet another thing to write about.  Gasp! Two posts in two days?! . . .yeah, I thought you might say that.  Sometimes the inspiration comes and goes, and other times it comes and it stays for a while.  It's all part of being a writer.  But anyway. . .

So today I had a whole day off with NO plans whatsoever.  For me, that is simply unheard of.  I spend most of my days at work, and when I'm not working, I spend most of my time in doctors' offices.  But today, I spent the day at home.  I cleaned my room (kind of).  I did the dishes.  I did some laundry.  Basically, I did fun adult stuff (okay, maybe not fun, but definitely adult chores.  Blah.).  But as the day went on I found myself getting antsy.  I'm still going stir crazy now.  But I've kind of given up on the fact that I won't be going anywhere today.  These kinds of days tend to put me in a mood.  I haven't had too many of them lately where I've been so busy, but today of course I came face to face with that mood.

As you and I have been talking about quite a bit lately, people change and friends grow apart or move as you get older.  Best friends become old friends, and new acquaintances become best friends. It's just a part of growing up.  I've had the same best friend for as long as I can remember.  She has been my rock, and she becomes more and more important to me as we grow older.  I truly cherish the fact that she and I have been able to make our friendship endure so many years of craziness and hardships.  She is a friend that I know I will keep forever.  Of course, I have other friends that I have known forever.  Unfortunately, for one reason or another, these friends have become distant and I don't get to see or talk to them as much as I'd like to.  And then there are the friends that you just have to let go of.  I've had a few of those, too.  They are always in your memories, and probably always will be in your heart, too, but for one reason or another you just can't stay friends with them.  And so tonight, as I sit here with nothing to do and no one to hang out with, I am reminded of how few true friends I am left with these days.

Now just because I am alone right now, it doesn't not mean that I am always alone, and this post is not meant to be a depressing one.  It is just what it is: the truth.  People grow up, they move away, they change, they find new friends, and you are left figuring out who to keep around and who to let go.  I hope you are always surrounded with great friends.  And I hope you realize that just because you may lose a friend or two as you get older, it doesn't necessarily say anything negative about you.  It is just a part of life.

I will always be your friend, even if you annoy the crap out of me! Keep your head up girly.



Monday, January 21, 2013

Choices, Choices, Choices



Yes, I know it's been a while.  That's not to say that I haven't thought about writing.  I have, trust me. But thinking about something and doing something are two completely different things.  Obviously, I didn't do anything.  But that was a choice I made, and here I am four months later finally choosing to bust something out.  Am I writing because I feel obligated to? Nah.  Am I writing because I missed it? A little.  Am I writing because I still want to leave me legacy and words of wisdom for you? Most definitely.  I may have slacked on this project for a while, but I think that subconsciously I was choosing not to write because, quite honestly, I didn't know what the heck was going on in my own life for quite some time.  And if I don't even know what I'm doing to myself and why I'm doing things, then how can I help you and tell you what to do? It's something to think about.

It is a new year, not only in a number sense, but in many other ways as well.  I am now 25, and have been for 13 days.  Each birthday starts another year for me.  It is also a new year for our country.  Today, on Martin Luther King, Jr Day, Barack Obama was sworn in for his second term as President of the United States.  Normally I would watch the inauguration (I'm a sucker for the speeches; what can I say, I love words), but today I was at work and without a TV, and so I could not watch it.  Of course, the first thing I did when I got home today was to find his speech on the internet and watched it.  Speeches like these always get me thinking.  And thus, here I am writing to you.

After listening to his speech, I was reminded of one major thing.  In America, we all have the opportunity to make choices. We get to make major choices, like voting for the president, picking what college we go to and naming our children when they are born.  Then we get to make smaller, every day choices as well.  Some of these choices could be like what clothing we wear for the day, how we do our hair, what to eat for dinner and what radio station we'll listen to on our way to work.  But just because these choices are smaller, it does not mean that they are any less important.

If I have learned anything from all of my shambles and celebrations over the last two years or so, it is that the choices we make as individuals mean everything.  Often, we take this freedom to choose for granted.  We don't think about what could happen as a result of our choice.  And when this happens, negativity can often find its way into our lives.  Trust me, I have learned the hard way more than one time in my adult life, and even as a teenager.  You must think before you make a choice.

But choices aren't always about materialistic things, either.  We make a choice in our attitudes every day.  We decide to look to at something as a positive thing, or we decide to be negative towards something.  Often in America, we hear of the daily battle between Republicans and Democrats.  Trust me, I'm not trying to make this political, I'm just using them as an example.  One would hope that as our leaders that they would look at a situation, and rather than seeing it as one side versus another, they would CHOOSE (there's that word again) to work together towards a common goal of bettering lives for the American people.  But unfortunately, more often times than not, individuals make the choice to let politics and power get in the way.  We as individuals tend to do the same thing in our own personal lives. Rather than choosing the well thought out, positive path, we choose what seems nice at the time only to find out later that it would end up costing us in one way or another.

As you get older, I hope you keep this lesson in mind.  Think about the choices you make.  They often end up defining who you are as a person, even if you don't necessarily intend for them to serve that purpose.  Your choices build your life, so I hope you make strong, good-minded ones so that your life may be a positive one.

Love you!