Friday, January 20, 2012




So let me talk to you about determination.  When I put my mind to something I'm usually stuck to that idea and hell-bent on getting it done. Today I put these letters into a blog, and so far have 22 hits in less than an hour!  I want to help you, and other girls in situations like yours, and if I really put my mind to it, it's going to happen!

I know you're determined to get back home.  I would be, too.  But honestly, that is a situation that is out of your hands, and try as you will, there isn't much you can do about it.  I would much rather see you use that ambition and determination towards something else, like your grades or making new friends.  Sometimes there are situations where you might try and try, but you can never get any farther.

Take my situation with Cam*.  I apologized and apologized over and over again.  Finally I realized that there was nothing else I could do because it was up to him now to make the change.  The same goes with you and Mom and Dad.  Ask, ask and ask again, but there's a point when you have to stop and realize that the rest is up to them to bring you home.  Usually when you reach this realization you'll find some peace.

So here's my point:  determination is a blessing and a curse.  Use it to the point where you're stressed out, and it's no good.  But use it to better a small part of your life, like in making a new friend, and it can be awesome.

This is my third time trying a blog.  Had I stopped the first time, I may never have written these to you.  Keep your head up!



*Name has been changed


  1. Lauren's Foster ParentsJanuary 21, 2012 at 9:09 PM

    As Lauren's foster parent, this is so inspiring to Lauren. I hope she takes your advice and puts her determination to use in any thing she chooses to do. She is such a wonderful girl and has it in her to reach for the stars. We love her just as you do and only want the best for her. She will make it through this with love and determination.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to read this! It means a lot that you have. Yes, she is a special girl with lots of potential, so hopefully she remembers that as she gets older. Tell her to keep her head up! Things can only get so bad, and then they're bound to get better :)